1.) Trust your intuition. It will not mislead you. Intuition comes from your heart and is what you know is true. It will ‘feel right’.
2.) Baby feeds on many parts of you, first and foremost, she/he absorbs your energy. Build awareness of where you are emotionally, and you will know how to best handle baby’s reaction.
3.) There will come times when you feel ‘trapped’ and/or ‘lost’. This is a natural part of motherhood/ parenthood. Again, be aware and have someone who can ‘give you a break’. It truly takes a village to raise children- build it!
4.) Find what works for you as a parent. Remember you are your child’s interpreter, spokes person, ‘public relations’ guide and mentor. Give yourself permission to both teach and learn from your child!
5.) Children will ask for what they need. It is our job to LISTEN. This does not imply that we sit by and allow children to raise themselves or give them full reign to make choices by themselves. However when we set guidelines and our children feel that those guidelines are not best serving them, we need to re-examine what we are doing and the reaction(s) we are eliciting.
6.) Children are our MIRRORS not our REFLECTIONS! Mirrors are tools for examination of our actions. They afford us opportunities to learn, change and grow. A ‘reflection’ is perceived to be more static, less autonomous, something that holds a less ‘communicative’ potential. We have more pejorative relationships with our ‘reflections’.
7.) Others’ opinions: Remember that we all view our world and others choices through a lens of individual life experience. Others’ opinions have less to do with you than it has to do with who it is coming from.
8.) ‘Do as I Do’: The phrase ‘do as I say, not as I do’ is hugely flawed and needs to be thrown out! Children will ALWAYS learn more from your ACTIONS than your words!
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